Your miscarriage is not your fault. You are not to blame. There is nothing you could have done to change the outcome. It’s not your fault.
“Mis-carriage”
As women, we often feel shame or guilt over our early pregnancy loss because we feel like it is our fault. The name, “mis-carriage,” seems to imply that something went wrong with how the pregnancy was carried. We carried the baby, so we blame ourselves for our loss because we assume we must have carried the baby wrongly or poorly.
We may think, “If only I hadn’t done….I wouldn’t have miscarried.” Or we ponder, “I wonder if I lost the baby because I…..”
Let’s look at why most miscarriages actually occur.
Causes of Miscarriage
The medical community does not know what causes every miscarriage, but the primary cause is a fetus not developing properly because of problems with the chromosomes or genes, such as extra or missing chromosomes.
According to the Mayo Clinic, “Most miscarriages happen because the unborn baby doesn’t develop properly. About half to two-thirds of miscarriages in the first trimester are linked with extra or missing chromosomes.”
The March of Dimes reiterates, “This usually happens by chance and not from a problem passed from parent to child through genes.”
Routine activities, such as exercise, working, sex, or having an argument, do not cause a miscarriage, according to the Mayo Clinic.
Release the Guilt
The medical community says your miscarriage was not your fault. Would you embrace the truth that your early pregnancy loss was not your fault?
Jesus made this powerful statement about truth. He said, “…you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32). In order to get rid of the guilt you’re carrying about your miscarriage, you need to choose to believe the truth—that you are not to blame.
It is time to bring the weight of guilt you’ve been under to Jesus and allow Him to lift that burden.
Will you pray the following?
“Jesus, I’ve been blaming myself for my early pregnancy loss because ________________________ (Tell Him what you believed about the cause of your loss).
Even though I’ve been blaming myself, that is not the truth. The truth is medically I’m not to blame, and You don’t blame me either. Today I choose not to blame myself any longer. I release this weight of guilt to You.
Help me to continue to think and believe I am not to blame and help my feelings to follow.
Thank you for lifting my guilt today. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”
Will you share this blog post with another woman who needs to hear this truth?